Oh You're So Tough
Oh You’re So Tough aka Chelsea Gomez emphasizes humor and art as a way to cope with cancer and chronic illness, and advocates for the AYA (adolescent and young adult) cancer community and the cancer community as a whole.
Transcript
Meagan Lockhart
We have Chelsey Gomez here with us. And one thing that I think is the reason I put her last is she really takes a number of these different aspects to mental health and wellness and puts them together. So she specializes and has a Instagram community of Oh, You’re So Tough. She is an artist and used art to get through her own cancer diagnoses. And has now turned that into a thriving community for cancer patients to not only share their stories, but to really break down the social barrier barriers and stigma related to cancer and the cancer journey that patients go through. So welcome, Chelsea. And I can’t wait for you to give us a bit more information about what you do.
Chelsey Gomez
Hi, everyone. So my presentation is going to be a little bit less formal. But I’m not an organization. But I am just a human who had cancer who thought we could probably do a little bit better in supporting people. So a little bit of background is I had Hodgkin’s Lymphoma two times and I went through a stem cell transplant in the middle of the pandemic. Literally when Florida was completely shut down, I was in the hospital getting my new cells. So when I returned home, I had to take my young daughter out of school because I couldn’t get sick and we were just home together. My husband, my daughter and I was just trying to recover. So as a form of coping with all the trauma that I had experienced in the last two years, I just made a decision one day to go buy an Apple Pencil and downloaded an app called Procreate. And I just started drawing about the way that I actually felt about cancer. And so much of my cancer experience had been trying to live up to what everyone else tells me I should be, so strong, brave, a warrior, a fighter. I just never related to those things. I always just felt scared and kind of out of control and sad and nobody was really, at the time, talking about those things openly on the internet. So I just took a risk and kind of put myself out there and started sharing these drawings. I started sharing some very vulnerable YouTube videos about the stem cell transplant process and how I was feeling. And instead of being met with what I thought would be like, What are you doing girl, it was like, Hey, we feel like this too. And slowly but surely over the last, close to three years, it’s hard to believe, but close to three years, I’ve been able to garner community on Instagram of very like minded people who are just truly a supportive community within themselves. Like, if you go to my page on Instagram, you can see there are people commenting back and forth all the time supporting each other. And in a very less formal way, I do connect people every other Friday. I do a little thing where people want to become friends. And I just kind of give some very brief overview of them, and then connect people because what I was seeing in my DMs was there were people who needed support, and they would be awesome friends, like, maybe you love rock music, and this one loves rock music and you both have cats. I was like, yes, you should be friends. So I do all of that. Also, I have developed my own brand, which is nontraditional cancer products I sell through Etsy. They are all humorous, because that’s how I feel like dealing with such a sad topic as cancer. That’s a way that we can kind of do it together. Because if not laugh, I guess we are just gonna have to cry. So I’d rather just laugh most of the time. And if you go to my page, you’ll see that it mainly reads as like a diary into my feelings about cancer. But you also read where people go, Hey, are you reading my diary? Are you in my head? And it’s like, no, I’m not. But I am at the same time because our experiences are so intertwined. And we don’t talk about them enough. So we feel isolated. So I think having a safe place to do that is important. Another project I started, which anybody listening is free to submit to is I have a twice weekly art project where I illustrate anonymous submissions from the cancer community. It can be from caregivers, patients, whatever. And it gives them a safe place to talk about these experiences that they’ve had and see them somewhere and maybe share them but people don’t know they’re from them. I keep everything confidential and safe. A couple of things that I do out in the community is I really believe in uplifting existing resources. So I have a big resource guide that I have put together on my page and I always share. So if there are events like this, or whatever I’m like, don’t need to reinvent the wheel, we have these resources, and I help get them to the people you’re trying to reach. And I think that’s really important. I was also fortunate enough to start a young adult art club, and that is in partnership with Gilda’s Club Madison and Gilda’s Club Middle Tennessee. And we have been doing it for close to a year and a half now. And our last workshop filled up within 24 hours, and our waiting list was filled within 24 hours. So if anyone out there is listening and wants to partner with our club, please hit me up because we think that it’s a really, really amazing program. And the sense of community and vulnerability and fun that we have is really awesome. Like we had a Taylor Swift lyric workshop, we had a cookie decorating and next month we’re having a thrifted picture ghost painting one if you’ve seen that all over the internet. So I really believe in bringing new ideas and new concepts. And I also believe in meeting people where they are, they’re already on social media. So I know that a lot of times people want to get people off of social media onto another app. Well, sometimes it’s important to meet them where they are, and they’re already there looking for you. And so you just kind of have to know where to look. Just a few more things I want to mention is I also volunteer with Bright Spot. I’m on their parent board. I’m really passionate about their organization. And they give away a few of my books that I wrote for children about cancer, because I saw with my own young daughter that there wasn’t enough out there that wasn’t scary. Like I just never really wanted to say, chemotherapy or all those terms that I don’t even want to hear and a kid cannot have any concept of. So I think that is important. And I’m also excited that I have began working with a lot of different research studies. So probably on the backend you guys don’t know, but I have been working on them and kind of seeing how can we leverage social media to better inform mental health, better inform people on even medical issues, like make sure we’re not having misinformation being spread. And I’m really excited. I’ve also been able to redesign some research materials recently, because I know how it is to be handed that book that is just like the scariest stuff you’ve ever read. And so I’m like, hey, if we can just make it a little less scary and a little more rainbows and glitter and make it a little bit more easier to digest, I think that’s really important. So I’ll stop talking now. But I’m happy to answer any questions. And I appreciate you having me here, even though I’m not like a big org or anything, but I am here in the community, really doing some grassroots things to try to make everything better for people.
Meagan Lockhart
Thank you so much, Chelsea.
Oh You're So Tough
Oh You’re So Tough aka Chelsea Gomez emphasizes humor and art as a way to cope with cancer and chronic illness, and advocates for the AYA (adolescent and young adult) cancer community and the cancer community as a whole.



